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Dear Sue,
It'll probably quite hard for me to pop in while you are working, but I'd like to let you know the birth went really well overall - I didn't use an epidural because I had weird hip and leg pain for contractions. The shit bits were: I bled 1 liter of blood (although I didn't feel anything, which is weird,'cause you'd think I'd feel 1 liter coming out of me right?) and currently can't tell when I need to pee (due to nerve damage) - so I pee based on 3rd hourly timer. The things we women go through, huh.
Then again, it's all worth it because this was the result:
This was taken at 5 weeks and 5 days (and she's just hit 9 weeks today).
They're supposed to look like dad but I swear she just looks like me.
PS. this is what her parents look like:
Hope your well, and randomly, thinking of you.
<3 Rita
It'll probably quite hard for me to pop in while you are working, but I'd like to let you know the birth went really well overall - I didn't use an epidural because I had weird hip and leg pain for contractions. The shit bits were: I bled 1 liter of blood (although I didn't feel anything, which is weird,'cause you'd think I'd feel 1 liter coming out of me right?) and currently can't tell when I need to pee (due to nerve damage) - so I pee based on 3rd hourly timer. The things we women go through, huh.
Then again, it's all worth it because this was the result:
This was taken at 5 weeks and 5 days (and she's just hit 9 weeks today).
They're supposed to look like dad but I swear she just looks like me.
PS. this is what her parents look like:
Hope your well, and randomly, thinking of you.
<3 Rita
Review: The wonderweeks
Apr. 11th, 2022 06:09 pmMy take home message after reading 25% of this book.
1. Be alert to your child's advances, and play with them in ways to stimulate little things like smoother hand movement or if they discover their toes or whatever, it's amazing.
2. they get cranky when they learn something new so expect that they go from angel to devil at each time.
Supposedly at 8 weeks they will grab for toys, and discover their toes. It's 8w4d for Wendy and maybe I saw her grab something a few weeks back but I haven't seen her do it again so clearly, that wasn't any such "leap". I'm pretty sure she hasn't discovered her toes, let alone her hands. I don't think anything's wrong or amis.
Evidently, kids do things when they do them. Lately she's been heaps more inquisitive in her gaze, and now has a fabulous social smile and is starting to laugh a bit. It's soft but it's there.
So the book takes 200 odd pages to say : if your child is being frustrating, then its fine because they're growing and you just have to bear through it. There are minimal tips on fixing it because there are no fixes. Just expect it and ask for support. It may be shit but it means good things to come so don't worry ...
Blimey, they could have been more concise. I ain't got all day to read this chunky thing.
1. Be alert to your child's advances, and play with them in ways to stimulate little things like smoother hand movement or if they discover their toes or whatever, it's amazing.
2. they get cranky when they learn something new so expect that they go from angel to devil at each time.
Supposedly at 8 weeks they will grab for toys, and discover their toes. It's 8w4d for Wendy and maybe I saw her grab something a few weeks back but I haven't seen her do it again so clearly, that wasn't any such "leap". I'm pretty sure she hasn't discovered her toes, let alone her hands. I don't think anything's wrong or amis.
Evidently, kids do things when they do them. Lately she's been heaps more inquisitive in her gaze, and now has a fabulous social smile and is starting to laugh a bit. It's soft but it's there.
So the book takes 200 odd pages to say : if your child is being frustrating, then its fine because they're growing and you just have to bear through it. There are minimal tips on fixing it because there are no fixes. Just expect it and ask for support. It may be shit but it means good things to come so don't worry ...
Blimey, they could have been more concise. I ain't got all day to read this chunky thing.
This article made me reflect on my childhood
I have this memory of when I was about 8 (but the size of a 12 year old). I didn't look exactly fat in photos -- but I remember feeling large and awkward a lot of the time compared to my peers.
When I was 8 however, i was chasing my cousin through her house, and I fell, and slid on the floor and my foot went right through their wall, creating a hole. My mum's really handy so she patched it up easily but I remember everyone marveling at how I could just "go through the wall" like that. My mum said the wall was like a tofu (soft). But I remember thinking wow. I'm like a real giant.
This brings me back to always not being allowed to "run" anywhere. Other kids would run and my mum would always be yelling at me "no running or you'll fall". Back to the article above, I do at times correlate the 'no running' to issues in older years in regards to clumsiness.
No running could also have been attributed to being born a girl in a time of strong gender stereotypes from a migrant parent.
It makes you wonder how I will parent. I'm not adverse to using those backpacks with the dog leads on them for children. Just saying...
I have this memory of when I was about 8 (but the size of a 12 year old). I didn't look exactly fat in photos -- but I remember feeling large and awkward a lot of the time compared to my peers.
When I was 8 however, i was chasing my cousin through her house, and I fell, and slid on the floor and my foot went right through their wall, creating a hole. My mum's really handy so she patched it up easily but I remember everyone marveling at how I could just "go through the wall" like that. My mum said the wall was like a tofu (soft). But I remember thinking wow. I'm like a real giant.
This brings me back to always not being allowed to "run" anywhere. Other kids would run and my mum would always be yelling at me "no running or you'll fall". Back to the article above, I do at times correlate the 'no running' to issues in older years in regards to clumsiness.
No running could also have been attributed to being born a girl in a time of strong gender stereotypes from a migrant parent.
It makes you wonder how I will parent. I'm not adverse to using those backpacks with the dog leads on them for children. Just saying...
Wins
I think I've figured out Wendy's 19:00hr tantrums -- the Moby sling has taught me how to hold her (in my arms, without the sling) in a way that seems to soothe her <3 So that's pretty good. Cause putting that thing on and off - to feed when I actually think she's hungry (rather than whinging)- and give my boobs a break - is really nice.
Sad point of the week:
A memory came back to me this week - that my father used to do eskimo kisses with me as a young child. This makes me so teary. I can't wait to do them with Wendy when she's older.
It's really odd how these memories hit you when you're least expecting them. It's like they're repressed but Wendy is a huge trigger I guess.
I think I've figured out Wendy's 19:00hr tantrums -- the Moby sling has taught me how to hold her (in my arms, without the sling) in a way that seems to soothe her <3 So that's pretty good. Cause putting that thing on and off - to feed when I actually think she's hungry (rather than whinging)- and give my boobs a break - is really nice.
Sad point of the week:
A memory came back to me this week - that my father used to do eskimo kisses with me as a young child. This makes me so teary. I can't wait to do them with Wendy when she's older.
It's really odd how these memories hit you when you're least expecting them. It's like they're repressed but Wendy is a huge trigger I guess.
The Birth part 3
Feb. 24th, 2022 08:31 amAnd just like that, yesterday we hit exactly 2 weeks to the day.
( Of course not all was hunky dory )
After 3 mornings dedicated to getting her centerlink and medicare stuff sorted (for some reason, Dad's can't do it -- but I did notice I could have started the process whilst I was pregnant, which would have been less stressful than doing it after she came) -- I finally finished on Tuesday morning. Despite having so called "Free time" now - I still managed to run out of time yesterday for anything beyond baseline activities. Go figure.
( Of course not all was hunky dory )
After 3 mornings dedicated to getting her centerlink and medicare stuff sorted (for some reason, Dad's can't do it -- but I did notice I could have started the process whilst I was pregnant, which would have been less stressful than doing it after she came) -- I finally finished on Tuesday morning. Despite having so called "Free time" now - I still managed to run out of time yesterday for anything beyond baseline activities. Go figure.
