The mothers group
Mar. 21st, 2022 07:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
whitewriter Gwendolyn had a meltdown this afternoon commencing when I arrived home at 16:00 from the Mothers group. 3 out of the 5 women at the table I was at had snoo's for their babies. It's an affluent area. That thing is damn expensive.
When I talk about it, Pete always offers that we can buy one but I refuse.
I don't know how I feel about
snoos They seem rather heartless. It makes me question what direction we are heading as a society. Feels a bit 'brave new world'. The girls that had it agreed that it worked for night time sleeping but not day time sleeping which leads me to think that their babies would probably sleep well at night without it anyhow - but it does take a good 15 to 30 mins to ensure a baby is properly asleep before you go to bed yourself -- could also take an hour sometimes (and as you sit there watching the clock and counting the minutes that's every minute less that you could be sleeping yourself.
Then again I want to buy this vibrating pad thing so who is heartless now?
My mum came with us because when I was leaving, she all of a sudden decided she wanted to come too. So I was like... um you mean like, walk me to the event and then walk home? (it's easy enough - but she's terrible with directions) and she's like no I'll stay because I don't know how to get home. I suggested google maps but she wasn't keen (but she drives with it... to my concern - she's a digital n00b and not a spring chicken at 73). So I was like, well, no one says you can't come so- At the meetup I explained my mum was very into being a grandmother - having waited so long for me to get on with it.
and so she came. She carried the baby's bag and when we got there, everyone else had their baby either sleeping in the pram or bouncing on their knee or in a carrier - and I had... grandma to soothe the baby and so I was completely hands free.
Which was nice.
Pete was home alone - he took an RDO that was due and timed it cleverly with the wedding of yesterday (that's for another post). The plan was that if I was too tired or didn't want to walk home, he could come pick us up.
The girl I sat next to was a manager from MICH (that I didn't know) - she told me the ward - heh. She's funny she was like, we left (work) at a good time didn't we? and I replied yes I basically skipped out of there. She also mentioned that her ward was where the outbreak that was related to overflow ICU was picked up - the one that I dodged because I was fortunately rostered off that week (and sent a bunch of people into forced iso as per the rules, which don't exist anymore --- Jolamine took care of that pt - and she's immunocompromised herself with some kidney issue requiring steroids - and I remember feeling sorry that the poor thing was stuck in iso for 2 weeks (and wasn't even on night shift either) - I'd gotten her some flowers after work and went down to her apartment (it's near Sally's) to say hello hope your ok - and that was the 2nd time I fell when I was pregnant (17+0) was on that slippery metal thing on the corner of her street. Only on my knee though .. so all was ok.
Did you know, some people have multiple mothers group?
I couldn't dream of keeping up with more than one.
The girl opposite me, Kat - is a WAG for a footy team. Which is kinda interesting- she works in some sort of digital designing thing? And opposite me, was the girl whose mother is also called Gwendolyn (Laura).
We talked about things we googled. kat commented that if even a midwife would need to google things then, she found that slightly non-reassuring - but I explained that I mostly worked in birthing, and only graduated in 2020, and that university really doesn't teach you "this bit" (aka. parenting). The manager beside me agreed - university doesn't teach you anything (sorry uni, you have your place). Midwives frequently encourage women to take courses or classes for the parenting part. Birth and labour is one day in your life. Parenting is the rest of your life.
Midwives know about the first 3 days if they work in postnatal- up to 2 weeks if they do midwifery at home. Or about birthing if they work in birth unit. Or about pregnancy if they work in antenatal.
Overall, it was good. I'll come back again, maybe next time without my mother if I can get her to take a day off.
When I talk about it, Pete always offers that we can buy one but I refuse.
I don't know how I feel about
snoos They seem rather heartless. It makes me question what direction we are heading as a society. Feels a bit 'brave new world'. The girls that had it agreed that it worked for night time sleeping but not day time sleeping which leads me to think that their babies would probably sleep well at night without it anyhow - but it does take a good 15 to 30 mins to ensure a baby is properly asleep before you go to bed yourself -- could also take an hour sometimes (and as you sit there watching the clock and counting the minutes that's every minute less that you could be sleeping yourself.
Then again I want to buy this vibrating pad thing so who is heartless now?
My mum came with us because when I was leaving, she all of a sudden decided she wanted to come too. So I was like... um you mean like, walk me to the event and then walk home? (it's easy enough - but she's terrible with directions) and she's like no I'll stay because I don't know how to get home. I suggested google maps but she wasn't keen (but she drives with it... to my concern - she's a digital n00b and not a spring chicken at 73). So I was like, well, no one says you can't come so- At the meetup I explained my mum was very into being a grandmother - having waited so long for me to get on with it.
and so she came. She carried the baby's bag and when we got there, everyone else had their baby either sleeping in the pram or bouncing on their knee or in a carrier - and I had... grandma to soothe the baby and so I was completely hands free.
Which was nice.
Pete was home alone - he took an RDO that was due and timed it cleverly with the wedding of yesterday (that's for another post). The plan was that if I was too tired or didn't want to walk home, he could come pick us up.
The girl I sat next to was a manager from MICH (that I didn't know) - she told me the ward - heh. She's funny she was like, we left (work) at a good time didn't we? and I replied yes I basically skipped out of there. She also mentioned that her ward was where the outbreak that was related to overflow ICU was picked up - the one that I dodged because I was fortunately rostered off that week (and sent a bunch of people into forced iso as per the rules, which don't exist anymore --- Jolamine took care of that pt - and she's immunocompromised herself with some kidney issue requiring steroids - and I remember feeling sorry that the poor thing was stuck in iso for 2 weeks (and wasn't even on night shift either) - I'd gotten her some flowers after work and went down to her apartment (it's near Sally's) to say hello hope your ok - and that was the 2nd time I fell when I was pregnant (17+0) was on that slippery metal thing on the corner of her street. Only on my knee though .. so all was ok.
Did you know, some people have multiple mothers group?
I couldn't dream of keeping up with more than one.
The girl opposite me, Kat - is a WAG for a footy team. Which is kinda interesting- she works in some sort of digital designing thing? And opposite me, was the girl whose mother is also called Gwendolyn (Laura).
We talked about things we googled. kat commented that if even a midwife would need to google things then, she found that slightly non-reassuring - but I explained that I mostly worked in birthing, and only graduated in 2020, and that university really doesn't teach you "this bit" (aka. parenting). The manager beside me agreed - university doesn't teach you anything (sorry uni, you have your place). Midwives frequently encourage women to take courses or classes for the parenting part. Birth and labour is one day in your life. Parenting is the rest of your life.
Midwives know about the first 3 days if they work in postnatal- up to 2 weeks if they do midwifery at home. Or about birthing if they work in birth unit. Or about pregnancy if they work in antenatal.
Overall, it was good. I'll come back again, maybe next time without my mother if I can get her to take a day off.
