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Apr. 22nd, 2024 08:40 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
whitewriterOne kid is like being in ICU.
1:1 care, all is about your patient/kid. All priorities and resources towards the first.
Two kids is like being in HDU, and one of your patients is sent upstairs to HDU for an angiogram procedure and because they have an arterial line in situ, an RN from ICU has to follow them and ensure someone is keeping an eye on the line. Which means that the other kid or patient is downstairs and you hope someone is taking care of kiddo 1. They also might not be.
They could be laying in their own poop,
pressing the buzzer.
in pain, asking for pain relief.
Or they could be fully asleep and it could be 3 hours and no one has done observations while your gone.
Aunt Sally is a gem.
Who else has a friend that just comes over, and helps you take the laundry in, while I get dinner on the table, Then changes a newborn's nappy and holds her to sleep while I sit with kid 1 while they are on the toilet.
Like, Dad is that good too - but with a lot of heavy handed instruction from myself allocating roles(which , while I understand women call this the mental load, honestly - how else are they to read our minds?)
Women expect too much from our men.
Delegate.
Let go.
Choose tasks- and just let them do it their style.
Or forget it, and that means your going to be doing everything.
Today at the child and family appointment it was a really weird affair because the child and family nurse is an ex??? colleague from ICU. And Aunty Sally that is my ex colleague (Same ICU though, down the hall) came to help with Wendy - and then there was me.
It was 3x ICU from the same hospital, same floor, discussing my kiddies.
The plan with Wendy is not to breastfeed to sleep - she's to have it before she brushes her teeth.
Challenge. Because I use nen nen to motivate her to put on PJs and nappy. Going to have to find other motivating options.
The plan with Mei2 is to get her to have longer feeds at the boob. It's hard I think because she is a super dooper sleeper. Like 4 hours + during the day when she's on a roll. It's like how do you sleep so well, that even if I wake you to feed, she feeds, and goes RIGHT BACK TO SLEEP.
Days like that, however I find 50% of the time she has a witching hour, needing to be held and just being awake in the PM.
As the MIL says, you can't have it both ways: sleep well during the day or sleep well during the night. Can't have both.
In my head i write beautiful posts. By the time i get to a desktop i forget what i wanted to say for the day and just spew out whatever without a proof or much thought.
It's not how id like to write but i suppose it may be indicative of my brain state.
1:1 care, all is about your patient/kid. All priorities and resources towards the first.
Two kids is like being in HDU, and one of your patients is sent upstairs to HDU for an angiogram procedure and because they have an arterial line in situ, an RN from ICU has to follow them and ensure someone is keeping an eye on the line. Which means that the other kid or patient is downstairs and you hope someone is taking care of kiddo 1. They also might not be.
They could be laying in their own poop,
pressing the buzzer.
in pain, asking for pain relief.
Or they could be fully asleep and it could be 3 hours and no one has done observations while your gone.
Aunt Sally is a gem.
Who else has a friend that just comes over, and helps you take the laundry in, while I get dinner on the table, Then changes a newborn's nappy and holds her to sleep while I sit with kid 1 while they are on the toilet.
Like, Dad is that good too - but with a lot of heavy handed instruction from myself allocating roles(which , while I understand women call this the mental load, honestly - how else are they to read our minds?)
Women expect too much from our men.
Delegate.
Let go.
Choose tasks- and just let them do it their style.
Or forget it, and that means your going to be doing everything.
Today at the child and family appointment it was a really weird affair because the child and family nurse is an ex??? colleague from ICU. And Aunty Sally that is my ex colleague (Same ICU though, down the hall) came to help with Wendy - and then there was me.
It was 3x ICU from the same hospital, same floor, discussing my kiddies.
The plan with Wendy is not to breastfeed to sleep - she's to have it before she brushes her teeth.
Challenge. Because I use nen nen to motivate her to put on PJs and nappy. Going to have to find other motivating options.
The plan with Mei2 is to get her to have longer feeds at the boob. It's hard I think because she is a super dooper sleeper. Like 4 hours + during the day when she's on a roll. It's like how do you sleep so well, that even if I wake you to feed, she feeds, and goes RIGHT BACK TO SLEEP.
Days like that, however I find 50% of the time she has a witching hour, needing to be held and just being awake in the PM.
As the MIL says, you can't have it both ways: sleep well during the day or sleep well during the night. Can't have both.
In my head i write beautiful posts. By the time i get to a desktop i forget what i wanted to say for the day and just spew out whatever without a proof or much thought.
It's not how id like to write but i suppose it may be indicative of my brain state.
