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whitewriter1. What is the best part of being a parent?
Watching them gain skills and doing things you set out for them.
Like Pete wanted Wendy to feed the cat as a chore. So ever since she could hold a cup we put a cup of cats dry food in her hand and got her to pour it into the cat's bowl. We probably started this since she was about 1?
Today Wendy informed me "feed the cat" I asked her where the cat's bowl is and she pointed out out. I set it up on the mat, got the food gave her the cup and she took the cup of cat's food and said "Thankyou" (kid you not - she actually surprised me) and poured it in the bowl and then clapped for herself.
What a cutie. But also, an (almost) 2 yr old can do chores. Who would have thought.
2. Describe your child(ren) and what makes them special.
I dunno. That she's genetically half my DNA? She's like any other kid otherwise.
3. What is something funny or clever your child has said lately?
Thankyou for the cat food without prompting was pretty good.
identifying her fears - like if she's scared of something she will say "xyz is scary" lol. I think that's a bit next level.
4. What are your parenting goals?
Avoid eating disorders.
avoid body dismorphia
Avoid a person trapped in cohesive controlling relationships or DV style situations
If kiddo is functional and independent and happy and has some give back to the community - that'll be enough really. Everything else will be a bonus. lolz. I want her to be like me but maybe a little better. (next version should always be an improvement, no?)
I hope she likes her parents. 'Cause we're alright people.
5. What are you doing to achieve your parenting goals?
Hum. Not being restrictive on eating. But be the role model. Provide a variety of foods - but that includes the whole spectrum, junks on special occasion to healthy stuff every day. Encourage her to try everything. If she doesn't like anything no cajouling or calling her "stupid" or an "idiot" or missing out (which is what my mum would say). There's no need for this type of language. Food is food. Enjoy a variety. But don't go crazy. Can't have chocies and ice cream every day (I don't purchase them usually).
6. How do you recharge your mind and body?
This journal is pretty good. Sleep helps heaps if I can get it.
I miss proper excersize but its hard when your pregnant and feel restricted in many ways. Especially with a cruddy pelvic floor. Probably makes it more important that I prioritise excersize but restriction just builds malaise- for me anyway.
7. What does balancing family, friends and work mean to you?
Don't give up on your friends without children. Priorities may differ but as long as they're not giving up on you or asking you to do impossible things and not being a little bit flexible for you - don't expect them to always wanna hang out with ur kid or hear about ur kid. It's your kid not theirs. But also I don't not want to share the challenges entirely. Like we all have our issues and friendship is about sharing your issues, not hiding them. But I'd pick my issues.
Ok you can't have everything. So work is part time for me now, which is nice -but also I can see how career opportunities are just impossible with part time. If you don't sign a form you'll get stuck with the shit shifts. Which is fine if that suits - but it's not always fine all the time. And when it's not fine it sucks. But, I'm going for mat leave soon so they can suck it.
cbb caring about work 2 weeks before I go on leave.
Going through these: journal prompts
Watching them gain skills and doing things you set out for them.
Like Pete wanted Wendy to feed the cat as a chore. So ever since she could hold a cup we put a cup of cats dry food in her hand and got her to pour it into the cat's bowl. We probably started this since she was about 1?
Today Wendy informed me "feed the cat" I asked her where the cat's bowl is and she pointed out out. I set it up on the mat, got the food gave her the cup and she took the cup of cat's food and said "Thankyou" (kid you not - she actually surprised me) and poured it in the bowl and then clapped for herself.
What a cutie. But also, an (almost) 2 yr old can do chores. Who would have thought.
2. Describe your child(ren) and what makes them special.
I dunno. That she's genetically half my DNA? She's like any other kid otherwise.
3. What is something funny or clever your child has said lately?
Thankyou for the cat food without prompting was pretty good.
identifying her fears - like if she's scared of something she will say "xyz is scary" lol. I think that's a bit next level.
4. What are your parenting goals?
Avoid eating disorders.
avoid body dismorphia
Avoid a person trapped in cohesive controlling relationships or DV style situations
If kiddo is functional and independent and happy and has some give back to the community - that'll be enough really. Everything else will be a bonus. lolz. I want her to be like me but maybe a little better. (next version should always be an improvement, no?)
I hope she likes her parents. 'Cause we're alright people.
5. What are you doing to achieve your parenting goals?
Hum. Not being restrictive on eating. But be the role model. Provide a variety of foods - but that includes the whole spectrum, junks on special occasion to healthy stuff every day. Encourage her to try everything. If she doesn't like anything no cajouling or calling her "stupid" or an "idiot" or missing out (which is what my mum would say). There's no need for this type of language. Food is food. Enjoy a variety. But don't go crazy. Can't have chocies and ice cream every day (I don't purchase them usually).
6. How do you recharge your mind and body?
This journal is pretty good. Sleep helps heaps if I can get it.
I miss proper excersize but its hard when your pregnant and feel restricted in many ways. Especially with a cruddy pelvic floor. Probably makes it more important that I prioritise excersize but restriction just builds malaise- for me anyway.
7. What does balancing family, friends and work mean to you?
Don't give up on your friends without children. Priorities may differ but as long as they're not giving up on you or asking you to do impossible things and not being a little bit flexible for you - don't expect them to always wanna hang out with ur kid or hear about ur kid. It's your kid not theirs. But also I don't not want to share the challenges entirely. Like we all have our issues and friendship is about sharing your issues, not hiding them. But I'd pick my issues.
Ok you can't have everything. So work is part time for me now, which is nice -but also I can see how career opportunities are just impossible with part time. If you don't sign a form you'll get stuck with the shit shifts. Which is fine if that suits - but it's not always fine all the time. And when it's not fine it sucks. But, I'm going for mat leave soon so they can suck it.
cbb caring about work 2 weeks before I go on leave.
Going through these: journal prompts
