Loosing sleep
Oct. 30th, 2021 10:29 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
whitewriterDear Beth.
If there is one thing in this world that has ripped me apart from friends, it has been when someone disagrees with my worldview.
I am reluctant to change anyone. I am reluctant to convince them that what they feel is right for them, isn't. Instead, I let go of such friendships.
I have felt great angst in the past over my passive-aggressive nature as it can cause me great turmoil when friendships I'd like to end, don't end largely due to my avoidance. Instead they linger on for months and even years beyond when they should have been terminated.
The opposite of termination would have been to engage in a great battle of discussion.
This has been true of relationships >7 years and also of my first boyfriend.
Regardless of how important these people once were, I have never chosen to engage in the battle.
Instead choosing to silently slink away.
Until,
one day,
either planned
or unplanned
I have had enough, and outright tell the person that I'd rather they not contact me anymore.
With little explanation of how it got to that point.
It's not that your pro choice
Nor is it that you have an exemption
Or that you don't want to get the vaccine
Or disagree with the government's policies and methods of controlling covid
Or your views on the media's role in all of this.
It comes down to one thing.
Vaccination is never about the individual.
Vaccination is about society and community as a whole, large entity. If one dies or becomes sick to save 1000 people, whilst that's really sad, it's much better than the alternative.
Alternatives to vaccination are untenable, impractical, illogical and not effective on a scale large enough to effect true and lasting change to a viral enemy.
Expecting someone to take a tablet every day for the rest of their lives (eg, Ivermectin) is beyond most individuals. Whilst lining up for one injection, painful for 2 mins, possibly making them sick for days to a week afterward, is much lesser of a hassle.
If people are resistive or slow or lazy or don't think it'll happen to them, and therefore don't bother to get vaccination, then mandating them is necessary.
Vaccination is only effective when the highest rate possible is achieved. When even 5 or 10% disagree and do not comply, then effectiveness is limited. This has been seen in countless other diseases and any information you have read to the contrary is propaganda spread by people whose world view, does not understand history and science.
I don't want it to be awkward if I bump into you on the street. I am not afraid of unvaccinated individuals as I know, that as I am fully vaccinated that I'll be fine.
But I do struggle to see how I can be true friends with someone who has quite a different world view to my own.
Yours Sincerely.
Rita
If there is one thing in this world that has ripped me apart from friends, it has been when someone disagrees with my worldview.
I am reluctant to change anyone. I am reluctant to convince them that what they feel is right for them, isn't. Instead, I let go of such friendships.
I have felt great angst in the past over my passive-aggressive nature as it can cause me great turmoil when friendships I'd like to end, don't end largely due to my avoidance. Instead they linger on for months and even years beyond when they should have been terminated.
The opposite of termination would have been to engage in a great battle of discussion.
This has been true of relationships >7 years and also of my first boyfriend.
Regardless of how important these people once were, I have never chosen to engage in the battle.
Instead choosing to silently slink away.
Until,
one day,
either planned
or unplanned
I have had enough, and outright tell the person that I'd rather they not contact me anymore.
With little explanation of how it got to that point.
It's not that your pro choice
Nor is it that you have an exemption
Or that you don't want to get the vaccine
Or disagree with the government's policies and methods of controlling covid
Or your views on the media's role in all of this.
It comes down to one thing.
Vaccination is never about the individual.
Vaccination is about society and community as a whole, large entity. If one dies or becomes sick to save 1000 people, whilst that's really sad, it's much better than the alternative.
Alternatives to vaccination are untenable, impractical, illogical and not effective on a scale large enough to effect true and lasting change to a viral enemy.
Expecting someone to take a tablet every day for the rest of their lives (eg, Ivermectin) is beyond most individuals. Whilst lining up for one injection, painful for 2 mins, possibly making them sick for days to a week afterward, is much lesser of a hassle.
If people are resistive or slow or lazy or don't think it'll happen to them, and therefore don't bother to get vaccination, then mandating them is necessary.
Vaccination is only effective when the highest rate possible is achieved. When even 5 or 10% disagree and do not comply, then effectiveness is limited. This has been seen in countless other diseases and any information you have read to the contrary is propaganda spread by people whose world view, does not understand history and science.
I don't want it to be awkward if I bump into you on the street. I am not afraid of unvaccinated individuals as I know, that as I am fully vaccinated that I'll be fine.
But I do struggle to see how I can be true friends with someone who has quite a different world view to my own.
Yours Sincerely.
Rita
