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whitewriter) wrote2020-12-28 02:17 am
whitewriter) wrote2020-12-28 02:17 am
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Dad types
1. Thinks he can be the midwife
Camera at the ready; head almost right next to mine (between the legs).
Post birth, he's inspecting the perineum with me.
Walking around the room with the baby unwrapped and not dressed (they get cold quickly).
Questioning the concentration of the infusions we are running (buddy- it's a standard mix, besides if I told you it was 30U instead of 10U would you realise it was the wrong one?). Seeing blood when its a bloody show. Stating there are bubbles in lines when there aren't...
Put a damper on that one quicksmart.
2. Overwhelmed
I had a dad once who kept saying: "This is a crazy process" over and over and over again.
Buddy, what were you expecting?
To be fair, his wife was very much in a trainwreck of a very progressive 2nd stage.
Sometimes type 1 and 2 mixes together and you get the nightmare Dad (be prepared for the worst shift of your life).
3. Not interested
on his phone, in the corner on the couch reading facebook or whatever.
Woman is labouring alone, at times asks for small things - like water - needs to ask twice because he's clearly not paying attention.
I don't know what happens when they get home.
4. Present.
My favourite. Not too worried, goes along with the process.
Supportive.
Easy to work with.
Asks good questions
I'd like to add:
5. High on some sort of substance
You'd be surprised but we get all types.
These are the worst. They're just unpredictable and unsupportive and you wonder why they are there at all. You fear for your own personal safety.
Camera at the ready; head almost right next to mine (between the legs).
Post birth, he's inspecting the perineum with me.
Walking around the room with the baby unwrapped and not dressed (they get cold quickly).
Questioning the concentration of the infusions we are running (buddy- it's a standard mix, besides if I told you it was 30U instead of 10U would you realise it was the wrong one?). Seeing blood when its a bloody show. Stating there are bubbles in lines when there aren't...
Put a damper on that one quicksmart.
2. Overwhelmed
I had a dad once who kept saying: "This is a crazy process" over and over and over again.
Buddy, what were you expecting?
To be fair, his wife was very much in a trainwreck of a very progressive 2nd stage.
Sometimes type 1 and 2 mixes together and you get the nightmare Dad (be prepared for the worst shift of your life).
3. Not interested
on his phone, in the corner on the couch reading facebook or whatever.
Woman is labouring alone, at times asks for small things - like water - needs to ask twice because he's clearly not paying attention.
I don't know what happens when they get home.
4. Present.
My favourite. Not too worried, goes along with the process.
Supportive.
Easy to work with.
Asks good questions
I'd like to add:
5. High on some sort of substance
You'd be surprised but we get all types.
These are the worst. They're just unpredictable and unsupportive and you wonder why they are there at all. You fear for your own personal safety.